Relationships take work, time, consistency, trust, and commitment. Dealing with relationships is one of the most difficult areas in life. It is natural to feel like we just do not have time to invest in all the relationships we want to be healthy. As much as you would love to get to know certain people, or become closer, you feel like you just don’t have the time to invest into another relationship, whether it is family or friends.
The relationships we are focusing on in The NINE, Essential Life Blueprint are in these three key areas:
- Partner, husband, wife (for ease we will use the word partner) throughout the framework.
- Extended family
The important relationship though, is the one with yourself. Having a good relationship with yourself improves your relationships with others as well as gives you insight into your own life. A healthy self-relationship is the ability to value yourself as a person and embrace your strengths and weaknesses. This is the first relationship we are going to discuss in this element of the Essential Life Framework.
You will first list key relationships in each area, and then use the blueprint to assess each relationship in that area. Once you have assessed one of the relationships, you just go through the process again, with another relationship that is important to you.
We stay in relationships for how we feel in those relationships. If you feel like “you can’t be you” in relationships, or you can’t talk about what lights you up, it is hard work to invest in those relationships. We then need to ask ourselves, why do we invest in these relationships? Why do we keep putting ourselves into situations that make us feel sad or even mad? After you work through the relationships you identified above, you will then be asked to identify a relationship where you need to set boundaries, and another one you may need a break from the toxicity in the relationship.
We are going to talk about all this and even more in this element #3 of The NINE Essential Life Blueprint. Relationships are a key element for completing you, for making you whole. We will chat about how to invest in relationships to keep them healthy and strong, how to set those boundaries on those we need, and how to put an end to those toxic relationships that no longer serve you!